Hey, remember that column I wrote last week about my problems finding a playgroup to call my own? Part of it detailed my experience attending a Green Hills Moms Club event (Green Hills, for those of you outside Nashville, is one of Nashville’s wealthiest neighborhoods) and feeling both a little bored and a little out of place.
Since the column ran, I’ve gotten e-mails, letters, and personal thanks from moms who’ve had similar experiences with playgroups. But I heard nothing from the members of the Moms Club.
Apparently, they all got together last night and burned an effigy of me while chanting their Moms Club vows, because I’ve gotten a number of angry comments from them since then. They have tried to convince me that I actually did not see a Mercedes and Lexus parked at the sparsely-attended member event I wrote about and that their members actually are penniless slobs just like me, although Google searches of their names turned up everything from Junior League and other chi chi Board memberships to prestigious universities and places of employment.
No matter. It all brings up an interesting issue. My column was not a fluffy features piece on playgroups. It was my own personal experience, not as a journalist exposing playgroups, but as a suburban mom considering my toddler’s (and my own) social options. And honestly, reading back over the column, I think that I come out looking like the biggest loser of all.
Several of the Green Hills moms have expressed outrage that I, a mother myself, poked fun at a moms group. But from what many of you have told me, I’m hardly the only one who’s felt like an outsider at a social event that’s purportedly for kids. I’m curious to know what you think. Are we as moms obligated to support each other, no matter what? Or is there a benefit to being honest about our feelings, even when they aren’t warm and fuzzy?
And Green Hills Moms, feel free to respond in the comments, but remember that the column was about my own experience searching for a moms’ group, not some grand citywide statement on Moms Clubs, and also remember that cursing at me and putting down my neighborhood really does nothing to further your cause.