I'm Lindsay Ferrier, a Nashville writer with a passion for family travel, exploring Tennessee, and raising kids without losing my mind in the process. This is where I share my discoveries, along with occasional deep thoughts, pop culture tangents and a sprinkling of snark. Want to get in touch? Use the CONTACT form at the top of the page.
July 28, 2008
>I’ll admit, I used to do it all the time.
“Do you remember the names of Columbus’s three ships?” Hubs would gently prod my then eight-year-old back in the days when I was a desperately eager, brand-spanking-new stepmom.
“I do!” I’d say excitedly. “The Nina, the Pinta and the Santa Maria!” Hubs would sigh and give me a look over my stepdaughter’s head.
“That’s right, Lindsay,” he’d say. “How did you get to be so smart?” I’d look down guiltily, my face turning crimson.
With my husband’s pointed looks and not-so-gentle reminders, it didn’t take me very long to let my young stepdaughters answer on their own the “tough” questions others posed to them. (Letting them win at board games was a different matter altogether, to my husband’s consternation, but that’s another story for another time.)
By the time I became a mom, I had learned to keep quiet when The Professor asked the kids at our library’s storytime what colors make a rainbow. My lips remained sealed as Punky’s art teacher wondered aloud where the horns should go on Punky’s construction paper giraffe. I even stayed mum when Diego asked which item in his backpack would help rescue the baby seal.
And I can laugh now at the other new parents who still haven’t quite gotten it down.
Take this past Saturday, when Punky and I attended a children’s theater production of Thumbelina. The actors periodically stopped and asked the crowd of preschoolers questions like, “What season is it?” as snow fell on the four-year-old Thumbelina and a wind whistled across the stage. Before any of the children in the audience could pipe up, a dad on the other side of the auditorium helped them out.
“It’s Winter!” he shouted joyfully. “Winter!”
The actor on stage chuckled a bit, squinting into the dark audience before continuing. “Is Thumbelina hot?”
“No!” the dad shrieked. “She’s COLD!”
“Who can save Thumbelina from all this snow, children?” the actor asked pointedly.
“The sparrow!” The father bellowed. “THE SPARROW CAN SAVE THUMBELINA!”
From my seat, I snickered. This wasn’t the first time I had seen a parent get caught up in the kiddie action, but typically, that parent was of the female persuasion, and quite obviously realized her gaffe right after shrieking, “A circle is ROUND!” in front of the entire Gymboree class. This dad, on the other hand, was clearly a rookie of the highest order, probably some weekend warrior spending an hour or two of quality time with the kids before he put in another eighty hours at work. Caught up in the pomp and pageantry of Thumbelina, he was like a snowball rolling down a mountain, only growing bigger and faster as it goes along.
“SINNNNNG! SING A SONNNNNNG!” he sang off-key along with the four-year-old Thumbelina as she warbled into a microphone on the stage. “SING IT LOUD!!!! SING IT STRONNNNNNNG!!!!!”
“Does anyone see the mole?” Thumbelina asked the audience once she had finished her unexpected duet, holding her tiny palms up in well-rehearsed supplication.
“I do!” the man said loudly. “He’s over there! Over there!” Craning my neck along with the other parents, I could just barely make the dad out on the other side of the theater, balancing his son on his knee and pointing out the mole to him, lest the kid be forced to, you know, think for himself.
I imagine this dad five years from now. By then, he’ll have graduated to coaching his son from the sidelines of the soccer game. “Move to the center, Reginald!” he’ll yell, even as the coach attempts to tells the kid to guard the goal. “Do you hear me?” the dad will shout as his son hesitates. “I said MOVE TO THE CENTER!”
A few years after that, he’ll be that dad who does his kid’s science projects for him. You can always pick out the handmade-by-dad projects on Parent’s Night. They’re the ones with meticulously matted pictures and perfectly-formatted summaries glued carefully onto professional display boards, the ones that would look more at home at the head of a boardroom table than they do amid the hand-printed, flimsy posters of the other sixth graders.
Maybe, though, someone will be brave enough to try and stop him, just as my husband once had to put the kibosh on me. Across the auditorium, I see a woman turn from her seat and say something to him as the sparrow whisks Thumbelina off to Fairyland. He keeps quiet for the rest of the show. It takes a village, I suppose, to make idiots like us let our kids figure out a thing or two for themselves.
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>Love it. I’ve caught myself one to many times carrying on a conversation with Dora and Diego, even after the boys have left the room.
>I was the WORST at this. I’m glad someone clued in this dad. I mean, it’s like you have spinach in your teeth and no one says anything. It’s really just compassion to tell, isn’t it?
>Ooh! I have a mom like this in one of DD’s Music Room classes. I wish I had the courage to say something to her.
>And perhaps this (among a few other reasons like lack of money! and patience!) is why I’m not yet ready to be a parent. I’d never shout aloud at a theater production (don’t much care for being the center of attention), but God help you if you answer a question wrong because that is my compulsion. Being right.Please don’t tell my husband that I just admitted this.
>Ha ha! I think you’d surprise yourself at the children’s theater. It’s hard not to get caught up in the “magic”- I think just about every parent out there has shouted something out a little too loudly during a children’s show. We just don’t care to admit it. 🙂
>I’ve never seen this happen but us Canucks are pretty laid back. :)LMAO @ Overflowing Brain too…
>Lindsay -I swear, I do NOT know what I would do without your posts every week!! You keep me sane!! Just when I need a good laugh… Suburban Turmoil to the rescue!!! Thank you!!HUGS-Bamagirl!!
>My favorite is when the preschool mom/ baby class does an art project and the moms (or dads) flick their kids’ hands away so the glitter will be perfect. You can always tell which projects have never seen the assistance of an adult. Incidentally, the same goes for big homework projects. If a third grader brings in a Power Point presentation you can bet the parents had a hands in it.
>Okay, now THAT is hilarious. Dad getting caught up in Thumbelina. lol Awesome! L is only 1, so we’ve still not been to the children shows and such. We live in the middle of nowhere – heck, I’m not even sure we HAVE children’s shows out here! lol
>Hey I think that dad was my husband! LOLOL
>ahhhhhhhhhh men. They do like to be in charge and know it all. It’s called a small penis, kids.
>Oy Vey. Glad someone said something to him finally. Poor guy. He means well. Right?
>Small penis? Hadn’t thought of that explanation… *snort*
>she shushed him??? jeebus i would have whipped out my camera, videotaped the rest of it, and posted it on my blog!
>Yeah that woman had BALLS to tell the guy off! ROFL
>i admit i’ve done that sort of yelling at the TV on occasion when watching “blues clues.””A CLUE! A CLUE!”yeah, that’s me. the 26-year-old weirdo yelling at a children’s TV show.
>Oh my gosh… I am so glad that I’m surrounded by Moms so I don’t do this stuff. Mine’s only 2, so I am getting good advice before I even need it.
>I think I know that dad. Or someone just like him anyway because I don’t think you live in Canada!
>I was at a childrens museum once, when I heard a mom say to her daughter, “You’re not doing it right. You’re totally ruining this for me. I think we should Go Home!” The little girl shook her head and put down her clay, while all the other mothers looked on in disbelief.Who was this for again?
>”You can always pick out the handmade-by-dad projects on Parent’s Night. They’re the ones with meticulously matted pictures and perfectly-formatted summaries glued carefully onto professional display boards, the ones that would look more at home at the head of a boardroom table than they do amid the hand-printed, flimsy posters of the other sixth graders.”Amen, sista!
>I used to do that kind of thing when he watched Nickelodeon, but that was back when mt child was quiet. Now, if he gets quiet, something bad is happening or he’s asleep. Now, I just sit and listen to him talk back to Wonderpets. It’s so cute!
>Hope springs eternal, but I have a feeling the only thing that’s going to get through to this guy is a 2×4 to the head by his kid who screams “Shut up! I got it already!”
>Hahaha… I am trying to picture this guy getting all Sesame Street and enunciating each answer with that cartoonish voice. Poor guy… so clueless… good thing that woman let him know the score.My kids were always the ones with the crappiest projects. I always appreciated the teachers that didn’t let the parent lead projects screw the curve. More times than not, though, they bowed to the pretty projects. Talk about village idiots!
>I think I would have said something to that guy too. Why let him spoil the fun for all the kiddos?
>I think part of it is to show our kids that we aren’t as stupid as we may seem most of the time. They are our best audiences – they can’t go anywhere for 18 years.
>Thanks for the morning laugh!